The mindset for losing weight

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Why do some people have success when it comes to losing weight and others do not? Why do some people maintain healthy weight forever and others see swinging their weight in a dangerous yo-yo?

In my experience in the field of slimming the mental attitude against food and diet is crucial. To investigate which are errors most often committed, the problems associated with them and best attitudes, I've ideally divided people into three main categories:

1 - people who live in constant struggle with food. These people, that I call the "fat problematic" (but they can be defined emotional eaters) eat impulsively, especially when they feel sad, bored, frustrated, alone. After binge they feel guilt that often lead them to the compensatory behaviors such as taking laxatives, vomit or get fast for a day or more. Usually there is a maniac attention to the calories (except during binges) and thought is turned to food during most of the day. Often they keep their problems hidden . This type of attitude can be the precursor of two diseases sadly notes: anorexia and bulimia.

2 - people who live their problem of overweight or obesity with irony (often exaggerated) and in some cases showing with pride their body generous . This kind of persons persists in declaring that be fat is beautiful . Although they are often carriers of problems related to weight, they continue to behave superficially sometimes in a playful manner, stating that they could never give up a slice of cake and the elevator is definitely better than taking the stairs! often food is associated at moments of conviviality, are usually persons friendly and cheerful, often are skilled cooks also if they abound with seasonings and fats. These people say that their being overweight is not a problem and that they have a good relationship with food. Of course nothing is further from the truth, but it is a lie basically they say to themselves. I call these people the "fat happy "

3 - the third type of people are what I call the 'fat aware': people who look realistically at their problem, accept it and deal it with it serenity. Obviously they are not be immune from sacrifice, hard times and falls, but they have a proactive mindset.

Only this kind of attitude leads to lasting success.

Now let's analyze the first two positions and let's see how to overcome the difficulties:

1 – the “fat problematic” face their problem with a deep sense of failure: they living their situation as a huge weight to bear and do not feel able to tackle it. This leads them to be frustrated, sometimes sad, and often wreak their discomforts on the food so they be absorbed in an endless vortex. The problem is not only the overweight but is burdened by a number of meanings added by the same person. Therefore to be overweight can also mean then to be alone, be inadequate, be not understood. The risk they run these people is to remain trapped in a negative image of themselves, created their own by themselves.
Keep this important distress hidden or diminish the importance with loved ones or with a specialist only serves to make it more big in the eyes of the person involved and increases the sense of loneliness that he feels.

The advices that I can to give if you have this important problem are:

• learns to recognize your emotions: are you sad? Angry? Bored? Jealous?

• keep a diary to write when and what you eat, the behaviors that you put in place after a binge and especially what you tried and why (blame? Anger? Regret? Sadness? Impotence?): writing helps to realize the problem and its origin.

• Talk to someone, anyone, the important thing is that he is a sensitive person. If this seems too difficult, because of shyness or fear or if you do not know with those who speak, there are many forums where they discuss overweight and where you can find people willing to help you.

• Try to understand, even writing, what do you think of yourself in relation to the problem: maybe you think that if you can't do the diet are a failed or weak? Repeat to yourself that being overweight does not mean being stupid, weak, inadequate, dislike or whatever!

• Remember that fear and pain that you feel should be an incentive to address the problem and not to flee

• become aware that be victims of the problem also has its positive side: the impotence makes you not take risks, it not forces you to wake from your liabilities.
  Do not fall into this trap! Think about it.

2 -the “ fat happy” deny to themselves their problem. Are people who, despite showing security, are deeply insecure, so much that they can't say to themselves to have a problem. The problem in this case is not only the overweight but also a lack of awareness of reality and possibly low self-esteem.
Basically there is ,in fact, the refusal to see what they have in front of their eyes : the unawareness make their lives livable. Instead of seeking happiness and welfare they are satisfied to avoid pain.

If you think you're a “fat happy” I suggest you :

• look you naked in the mirror and ask you : what do I see? What do I feel? What I like? what I dislike? Do not run away to yourself: accept youself! Only after you accept yourself deeply with your strengths and weaknesses you can seriously decide to change that, honestly, you don't like.

• Remember that “accepting” does not mean "liking". Accepting is to have respect for the truth. If you have respect for the truth your mind is happy to not have to lie to herself finally

• the awareness will make you free from the prison of unawareness

• Do not think that the weight-loss diet is a deprivation: it will not deprive you of friends, of emotions and events. The day when you decide, after a careful self analysis, to start a diet you should be happy and not sad. Nothing will be removed , much will be gained!

• Turn your irony into a force for your success: you can joke and laugh of your apple instead of desserts, but this time you will be really happy because you know you're doing something for yourself.

• Do not forget that the refusal of the problem has also its positive side: you can live in a kind of apparent serenity that abandon you when you become aware of the problem: do not be charmed by this solution that is only apparently the simplest.
  
  

first acceptance
As we have seen accept yourself means having to ourselves an image true, not distorted by complex or superficiality. To be successful we must know fully and objectively as we are and how we want to be, we must know our body, but not all: we must also learn to listen to our bodies and our emotions: What happens now? We are hungry or just bored? It is hunger or only thirst? You want a piece of chocolate or you just feel alone?
Furthermore is useful a good understanding of the mechanisms of the body, as our baseline metabolism for example, what kind of exercise can be helpful, what foods are best suited to us. This is also to give us the goals realistic and achievable.

Secondly the responsibility
Each of us is responsible for his welfare and the achievement of its goals .when we become aware that we are the responsible of our happiness, we assume an active role in our lives and we actively purse our desires.

Finally preparation the goals
The goals must be specific and be a short-medium term, we can prepare the sub goals (eg 3 kg a month) by which to reach the final goal . The action plan must include a continuous self-knowledge, that not exhausted in the first analysis, a personalized diet, a program of physical activity constant as possible suits your needs and physical characteristics, a periodic monitoring of results and where we are compared to the objective end. See our progress will strengthen confidence in ourselves and in our program, go ahead will be increasingly easy and satisfying.

Remember! The mental attitude is critical ...

To have significant and lasting results is important:

• To have respect for reality, not escape!
• Know yourself
• Accept yourself!
• Be happy to do something concrete for yourselves
• Correct your mistakes and not persevere in error
• give you the realistic goals and short-term
• have an action program
• write, write, write!
• Seek help

but above all be convinced that our life and our welfare are values to support, to protect, to nurture, and that our happiness is important enough to spend the effort.